Breaking Emotional Patterns, Training Your Mind to Rise Above Negativity

We often get trapped in emotional patterns without realising it. Learn how to recognise, interrupt, and rewire your emotions through conscious awareness and real-life examples that bring peace and positivity back into your day.

Breaking Emotional Patterns

I have been reading a lot lately about breaking emotional patterns.

For instance, when you feel sad, that sadness can linger for hours. The moment you feel like crying, every old problem seems to rise from the ashes and join hands to make it feel like a mountain of trouble. When stress shows up at work, negative self-talk instantly follows.

These are nothing but emotional patterns we have unknowingly picked up as coping mechanisms since childhood. So, don’t be hard on yourself.

No emotion is permanent; it’s often just a habit we’ve grown used to.

Everyone says, “Be positive,” but rarely does anyone teach us how to be positive. After all, no one wakes up in the morning deciding, “Let me be negative the whole day.” Right?

The key lies in becoming conscious of how you feel, and then identifying what triggered that feeling.

This simple awareness has helped me tremendously. I’ve learned to break these negative emotional patterns. Let me share a few real-life examples.

Example 1

When I feel that my sales targets are going poorly and I begin to feel stressed or low, I pause and recognise the emotion. Then I recall two instances from the past when I achieved outstanding results. That small shift immediately breaks the negative pattern and helps me focus with renewed energy.

Example 2

When I feel that my friend, husband, or kids have let me down or failed to understand me, I notice how that thought tries to drag me into sadness. Instead, I remind myself of two moments when they apologised or went out of their way to show love and support. Instantly, my heart softens, and the negative pattern loses its grip.

Example 3

When I feel lazy or unmotivated and guilt begins to creep in, I think of the times I pushed through, finished a task, cleaned the house, cooked, or organised something and felt proud afterwards. Remembering that sense of accomplishment sparks my motivation again.

Our brain is a remarkable organ; it can be trained and tuned. It can be rewired. The goal is not to suppress or ignore emotions, but to acknowledge them, accept them, and then consciously redirect them.

Positivity is not about living in a fantasy world where everything is perfect. Life will always have both light and shadow. True positivity is the ability to adapt quickly and change your mental frequency to a higher one, even when things go wrong.

I often tell my husband Ben Paul, “In mathematics, a negative multiplied by a negative gives a positive. But in life, that formula doesn’t work. In life, a negative must be met with a stronger positive to create something good.”

That’s the real art of emotional mastery ,not avoiding the storm, but learning to dance in the rain.